Recognizing Someone in Distress

Situation

Learn about the situation. Almost any challenging situation could lead to suicidal thoughts.

  • Are they having relationship problems? Have they recently broken-up with their girlfriend/boyfriend? Are they arguing with their parents?
  • Are they misusing alcohol, street drugs or are they involved in gambling?
  • Are they being teased, bullied or made fun of by peers?
  • Are they failing subjects? Are they having problems at work?
  • Are they in trouble with the law?
  • Are they experiencing significant financial problems?
  • Have they been physically or sexually abused?
  • Are they experienced a significant loss?
  • Are they questioning their sexuality or sexual orientation?

Physical Changes

Ask about physical changes.

  • Do they lack interest or pleasure in all things?
  • Do they lack energy or feel tired and sluggish?
  • Are they restless and anxious?
  • Have you noticed a change in their appearance or a lack of interest in personal care?
  • Are they having problems with sleeping? (Sleeping all of the time or unable to sleep)
  • Has their appetite changed? (Not eating or overeating)
  • Have you noticed an increased number of physical complaints?

Behaviour Changes

Observe for behavioural changes.

  • Are they crying, having emotional outbursts or irritable?
  • Do they have prior suicidal behaviour or self-harm behaviour?
  • Are they abusing alcohol or drugs?
  • Are they impulsive and participating in reckless, risky behaviour?
  • Have they dropped out of school or are they thinking about dropping out of school?
  • Are they fighting or breaking the law?
  • Are they withdrawing from friends or family?
  • Are they giving away favourite possessions?
  • Has there been a dramatic mood change or an extreme behaviour changes? This could indicate a more immediate danger.

Thoughts

Listen to their thoughts, in the statements they make.

  • Are they talking about suicide or do they seem preoccupied with death?
  • Do they have a plan to harm themselves?
  • Are they feeling isolated and alone?
  • Are they feeling helpless with no future?
  • Do they just want to escape?
  • Do they feel guilty or damaged?
  • Are they making statements like “Everyone will be better off without me”?

Feelings

Try to sense what they are feeling.

  • Do they feel an overwhelming sadness?
  • Are they feeling desperate?
  • Are they feeling hopeless and worthless?
  • Are they feeling disconnected and lonely?
  • Do they feel ashamed or guilty?
  • Are they feeling angry?